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teen faceBullying is common.
You may have been bullied yourself
or seen it happen to a friend.

Often people are bullied because someone sees them as “different.”
This difference can relate to their culture, physical appearance, learning disability, sexual orientation, religion, or because they’re new to a school or neighborhood.

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> Bullying: Get the Facts (PDF)

> Bullying: What's It All About (PDF)

> Bullying: What You Can Do To Stop It (PDF)

Who bullies?
Bullies are loners who have low self-esteem and pick on other people to feel better about themselves, right?

Not always. People who bully often have friends and feel fine about themselves. But they are impulsive and don’t like to be frustrated.

They like to control other people and don’t feel sympathy for others. They like to feel more powerful than those around them.

They may also bully out of fear or lack of understanding about a person’s culture, race, background or lifestyle. Sometimes, a bully is someone who has been bullied themselves.

A bully can be an individual or a group of people. It can be someone your own age, younger or older, like a person in a position of power. It can be a guy or a girl. It can be someone who is outgoing and aggressive or someone who seems quiet on the surface, but does things behind your back.

How do you know if you’re being bullied?
If someone is aggressive towards you by picking on you, making fun of you or hurting you and you feel scared and that you can’t defend yourself, then chances are you’re being bullied.

This is not the same as when two people have a disagreement that they need to sort out. This is about you being victimized and the other person trying to have power over you.

If you want to discuss a bullying situation with someone, call

More Resources
  • National Crime Prevention Council Cyberbullying resources for teens

  • GLBT National Youth Talkline 1-800-246-7743 or by email:

  • The Trevor Project
    The Trevor Project is determined to end suicide among LGBTQ youth by providing life-saving and life-affirming resources including our nationwide, 24/7 crisis intervention lifeline, digital community and advocacy/educational programs that create a safe, supportive and positive environment for everyone. 1-866-488-7386

  • Pacer Center Bullying awareness resources for kids and teens with disabilities and Teens Against Bullying

  • Reach Out USA
    inspiring stories of teens living with depression, eating disorders, body image, bullying, stress, conflict, drugs and alcohol and how they cope.

  • Digital Abuse and Cyberbullying: That’s Not Cool Campaign - Videos, electronic call out cards, and information and resources about abuse via texting,
    instant messaging and online accounts

  • More information about Cyberbullying

  • YouthWEB Online : YouthWEB Online unites youngsters, teens and adults from diverse backgrounds and communities in the fight against bias, bigotry and prejudice. Young people can report hate-related incidents and get assistance along with information about hate crimes, school violence, discrimination and human rights.
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